Rainy days are rather cozy, aren’t they? They invite us to stay inside, grab a hot drink, and curl up with a book or movie. May has been a very rainy month at Breathing Space, and the rain seems to continue into June. With as much rain as we have been getting, let’s explore the connection between weather and our mood and rainy day practices.

“You never loved yourself that’s why you needed everyone to like you.”
—Baron Ryan

Do you find that you experience a bad thing and think to yourself, “Nothing in my life can ever go right?” Do you think that you’re bad at relationships because you can never seem to do the right thing with your partners? Have you ever been excited to build a project, only to find after a while that things are taking longer than expected or you can’t just do things the way you expected so you think “This entire project is a wasted mess and will never work out”?

These are all examples of all-or nothing thinking. Let’s look at what this is and, more importantly, how we can challenge these thoughts.

Are you stuck on something that happened in the past? Your mind still mulls over all the things you should have done differently. You can’t stop thinking about how nervous you were during that presentation or that embarrassing moment from high school still makes you cringe.

Our instinct is often to shove these memories aside and never think about it again. But they are sneaky. When they creep back up, they bring a heavy bag of emotions—guilt, shame, hurt.

This week, let’s talk about how to process these moments. Whether it’s a Big event or a small moment, learning to process can help us learn to let go and come back to the present.