The Idea of the Week
Do expectations always lead to resentment? In this 9-minute video, Kati Morton shares her thoughts on this quote and the methods she uses to manage her expectations.
- Recognize what your expectations are. It may be easier to look at what you expect from other people first. Ask yourself, “What annoys me? Am I getting angry and not understanding why?” Then evaluate: “Is this an expectation I didn’t know I had, or one I didn’t communicate with the other person?”
- Assess your expectations. Where did your expectations emerge from? Then choose whether you want to continue to have those expectations. Let go of the expectations that no longer serve you.
- Communicate your expectations. Other people can’t read your mind, so they won’t recognize what your expectations are. If we don’t communicate our expectations with them, they won’t know or won’t be able to act to meet the expectations or share their capabilities regarding your expectations.
Do your expectations for yourself drive you? Motivate you to succeed in meeting the expectation? Or do your expectations feel heavy? Do they pressure you and feel overwhelming?
In this 16-minute TEDx Talk, Gina Jeenafu shares her experiences of having a lot of expectations that feel heavy and how she manages her high expectations so they drive her, not pressure her.
Practice of the Week
Verywell Mind outlines the Expectations vs Reality Trap (5-minute read). First, the article explores how expectations can lead to disappointments, then shares some strategies for how to manage expectations:
- Become aware of your expectations. When you enter a new situation, ask yourself, “What do I expect to happen?” When you feel disappointed, evaluate your expectations. Were your expectations realistic?
- Practice gratitude. Even when the unexpected happens, actively find the positives in the situation and your life.
- Don’t make comparisons.
- Consider what makes you happy. When we set expectations, we may overestimate how happy we’d be if we met that expectation.
- Practice emotional acceptance. Acknowledge your feelings without judgment or resistance, even negative emotions.
What are your strategies for managing expectations? Share with us on our Instagram or Facebook page!
News of the Week
Melissa Compton is a trauma-informed art therapist and mental health professional. Melissa offers art therapy as an adjunct to current therapy, and she utilizes an eclectic approach and provides a safe, non-judgmental, and comfortable healing space for you to process your experience.
Please call 315.516.8466 to begin your art therapy sessions with Melissa!
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Join Tati, back by popular demand, for her next series of Family Constellations and Sharing of Ancestral Knowledge Workshops!
Tati owns a healing and psychotherapy practice working with sacred plant medicine, ancestral healing, and art therapy in her home in Ecuador.
In April, Tati visited the U.S. for the first time to hold workshops and healing sessions in Erieville and Fayetteville, NY, all of which had such a positive reception that people requested more! Join Tati for her return in October and the next series of workshops and healing sessions.
Family Constellations is a type of therapeutic approach that focuses on exploring the dynamics within a person’s family system, including their relationships with parents, siblings, grandparents, and other family members, even ancestors. This approach can be used to address a variety of issues, such as relationship difficulties, emotional blocks, and unresolved traumas.
This workshop involves a group of participants who come together to explore their own family dynamics through a series of exercises and discussions led by our facilitator, Tatian Davila, a psychotherapist, healer, and seeker of ancestral knowledge. Tati will offer 2 workshops as well as individual healings. The workshops will be held at Breathing Space Studio in Erieville, NY.
The Family Constellations Workshop will be held on October 28, 2023, from 10 am to 4 pm.
The Sharing of Ancestral Knowledge Workshop will be held on October 29, 2023, from 10 am to 4 pm.
Both workshops will be held at Breathing Space Studio
3455 Erieville Road
Erieville, NY 13061
Individual Healing Sessions will be held in Fayetteville, NY from October 30th through November 3rd.
You asked for more; we delivered! Back by Popular Demand:
Unlock Your Mind and Journey to Self Discovery at Our Summer Ketamine-Assisted Experiential Psychotherapy Retreat
Our first KAP retreat in April had such a positive reception and requests for more that we’re excited to share our Summer KAP Retreat in August!
One Ketamine Journey—lots of deep dives into experiential therapy incorporating meditation, writing, art making, yoga, and other body-centered modalities. Step away from the stressors of daily life and fully immerse yourself in the therapeutic process. We will use Ketamine and experiential therapy to break through the stuck places to find more freedom, pace, and motivation!
Zoom Preparation Session: Thursday, July 27th from 6-9 pm.
In-person: Thursday, August 3rd from 6-9 pm.
In-person: Friday, August 4th from 10-6 pm.
In-person: Saturday, August 5th from 9-5 pm.
Zoom Integration Session: Thursday, August 10th from 6-8 pm.
The Thought of the Week
Wishing you a peaceful week!
