How are insecure attachment styles developed? What do they fear in relationships? And, why do they react strongly to seemingly innocuous behaviors?

In this post, we will explore each insecure attachment styles’ origins, schemas (or beliefs), core wounds, fears, and triggers. Understanding our attachment styles can help us understand how we relate to other people and how we can be more mindful of our interactions.

What repeating patterns have you noticed in your romantic relationships?

Do you feel like you’re more involved in the relationship than your partner—that no one can love your partner more than you do? Do your relationships start great and passionate but later you feel like you lose that spark almost overnight? When the relationship starts to become emotionally intimate, do you shut down and push your partners away?

Or, maybe you feel safe being vulnerable and intimate in your relationship.

These repeating behaviors are indicative of your attachment style and how you cope with intimacy. Learning about your attachment style can help you challenge insecurities and unhealthy, emotionally-taxing behaviors.

In this post, we’ll look at each of the attachment style’s tendencies and behaviors in romantic relationships. Then we’ll dive deeper and explore each attachment style’s compatibility and dynamic with one another.