The Idea of the Week
In an 8-minute video, Matt D’Avella shares how a 30-day social media detox changed the way he interacted with social media. Besides no longer feeling compelled to constantly check social media and stay caught up on the latest news story, he also discusses some of the boundaries he put in place so that he can have a healthy relationship with social media even when he feels a compulsion to check.
- The detox challenge pushed him out of his comfort zone and emboldened him to take on more challenges, such as 30 days of meditation.
- He realized how little he needed social media and how little he missed it.
- He does not keep social media apps on his phone consistently. He will reinstall when he wants to use them for maybe an hour a couple day, but then deletes apps when they are no longer serving him.
- He noticed that he compares himself to others much less often, and the voice in his mind that compares him to others is quieter when he is not on social media constantly.
- Sometimes, the distraction that social media offers is helpful, such as when we have bad days. It is when the problem of scrolling on social media becomes so big that it negatively impacts our lives.
The Practice of the Week
If trying a 30-day social media detox sounds overwhelming, you can try to shorten the time span. Try it for a couple weeks, a week, or even a couple of days, then try working your way up.
You also do not have to suddenly cut from social media entirely from your life for a certain amount of time in order to have a healthy relationship with social media. The sudden detox can be helpful for overcoming the hurdle and resetting your approach, but the important thing is to develop a system, or practice, that creates a healthy relationship with social media in the long-term.
If you go without social media straight for a month but fall back into mindlessly scrolling when you open social media again, then try implementing boundaries and practices that works toward maintaining the long-term relationship. Lavendaire shares 6 Tips to Stop Doom Scrolling in a 16-minute video.
- Swap out your habit. Notice when you pick up your phone to scroll and swap it out with another habit.
- Out of sight, out of mind: Increase the physical distance between you and your phone. When you are working, place your phone in another room or in a drawer. When you’re out with your friends, family, or loved ones, keep your phone off the table, so you do not default to picking it up and scrolling when you are bored.
- Set app limits. Go into your settings and set time limits for each social media. Even if you break the limit, setting the limit will make you more conscious about how much time you are spending on that app.
- Delete apps that are not serving you. If it does not feel good to be on it, delete it, and see what it feels like to live life without it for a few days, a week, a month, etc.
- Go deeper and pinpoint the real issue: Why do you keep scrolling? Why do you reach for your phone for a distraction? What are you distracting yourself from? Try journaling or doing shadow work.
- Cultivate more mindfulness and practice being present.
“[Mindfulness] is not willpower.
It is the practice of being
the observer of your life.”
—Lavendaire
Remember that social media is a tool, and you have the power to shape what that means for you and how it serves you.
What will you swap out your scrolling habit with? Hit reply and let us know, or share with us on our Facebook or Instagram page!
News of the Week
Internet Safety
Psychoeducation Virtual Workshop
November 11, 2023
In this workshop, your child will learn age-appropriate information about navigating the internet and how interact with others on the internet safely.
Space is limited to 8 people per group.
Cost: $50, partial scholarships available
Register by November 3, 2023
Meg Tobin, LMHC is now an End of Life Doula!
End-of-life doulas provide emotional and physical support, education about the dying process, preparation for what’s to come, and guidance while grieving. Though Meg is not doing traditional doula work, she will work with end-of-life clients and their families utilizing ketamine.
DID YOU KNOW?
OVS may be able to help if you have unreimbursed crime-related expenses, such as medical bills, counseling costs, and funeral expenses, or assist with loss of earnings or support. They can help pay for therapy for crime victims, including Ketamine-Assisted Psychotherapy!
Unlocking Your Mind:
A Journey to Self-Discovery
Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy Retreat
Two Ketamine Journeys—lots of deep dives into experiential therapy incorporating meditation, writing, art making, yoga, and other body-centered modalities. Step away from the stressors of daily life and fully immerse yourself in the therapeutic process. We will use Ketamine and experiential therapy to break through the stuck places to find more freedom, pace, and motivation!
Zoom Preparation Session: Thursday, October 26th from 6-8 pm.
In-person: Thursday, November 2nd from 4-9 pm.
In-person: Friday, November 3rd from 8:30 am-8 pm.
In-person: Saturday, November 4th from 9 am-5 pm.
In-person: Sunday, November 5th from 8am to 9am.
Zoom Integration Session: Thursday, November 9th from 6-8 pm.
You may be able to finance the retreat. Use the QR Code below to see if you prequalify!
Join Tati, back by popular demand, for her next series of Family Constellations and Sharing of Ancestral Knowledge Workshops!
Tati owns a healing and psychotherapy practice working with sacred plant medicine, ancestral healing, and art therapy in her home in Ecuador.
In April, Tati visited the U.S. for the first time to hold workshops and healing sessions in Erieville and Fayetteville, NY, all of which had such a positive reception that people requested more! Join Tati for her return in October and the next series of workshops and healing sessions.
Family Constellations is a type of therapeutic approach that focuses on exploring the dynamics within a person’s family system, including their relationships with parents, siblings, grandparents, and other family members, even ancestors. This approach can be used to address a variety of issues, such as relationship difficulties, emotional blocks, and unresolved traumas.
This workshop involves a group of participants who come together to explore their own family dynamics through a series of exercises and discussions led by our facilitator, Tatian Davila, a psychotherapist, healer, and seeker of ancestral knowledge. Tati will offer 2 workshops as well as individual healings. The workshops will be held at Breathing Space Studio in Erieville, NY.
The Family Constellations Workshop will be held on October 28, 2023, from 10 am to 4 pm.
The Sharing of Ancestral Knowledge Workshop will be held on October 29, 2023, from 10 am to 4 pm.
Both workshops will be held at Breathing Space Studio
3455 Erieville Road
Erieville, NY 13061
Individual Healing Sessions will be held in Fayetteville, NY from October 30th through November 3rd.
The Thought of the Week
Wishing you a peaceful week!
